Text Me When You Get Home

Text Me

Posted on May 3, 2018 - 12:46pm

Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship by Kayleen Schaefer 

My best friend Carissa and I have not lived in the same state since college, but our friendship thrives through late night phone calls, silly texts, care packages, and impromptu meetups.  She is in Chicago and I'm in Cedar Rapids, so we are becoming pretty well-versed in rural northern Illinois as a halfway point.  (May I suggest Freeport, Illinois - Pretzel City, USA - for your next family vacation?)  No matter where we meet, our conversations end the same way: "Text me when you get home!"

Women say this to their friends not just for safety's sake, but also to keep our conversations going.  I thought about how often I've said this phrase as I gleefully devoured Kayleen Schaefer's latest book: Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship. Schaefer's book researches the evolution of female friendships from a luxury to a necessity.  She weaves her personal experience with interviews and research for an enjoyable read. 

I especially enjoyed her interviews with author Judy Blume.  Blume speaks candidly about the powerful connection she still shares with her childhood best friend, as well as the loneliness she felt as a young housewife on a new cul-de-sac.  That's right: Judy Blume, who created some of my childhood favorite fictional friendships, turned to writing as a way to escape her isolation.  Today she and her friend live within a block of each other again in New York City!

This is a great book to share with the friend in your life who is the Oprah to your Gayle, the Iliana to your Abbi, the Carissa to your Madeline.

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--Madeline Jarvis, Adult Services Coordinator